“We’re not rushing it,” Wade, a 29-year-old NBA player, says. “Both of us  have been married before, and we understand that if we choose to marry again, we  want it to be right.”

(Wade has two sons, Zaire, 9, and Zion, 3, with ex-wife Siohvaughn  Funches; Union was wed to NFL player Chris Howard from 2001-2006.)

“We both took failing at marriage hard,” Wade explains. “The next time it’s  gotta be forever.

Union, who next stars in Tyler Perry’s Good Deeds,  echoes her boyfriend’s sentiments. “When it happens, it’s going to be something  that only our friends and family know about,” the 39-year-old actress tells Essence. “That is, unless the E! Network comes up  with the right number, of course.”